Aaron Lawrence is a 24 year old escort and porn star from New Jersey. He's also got a college degree in Psychology and is the author of The Male Escort's Handbook and Suburban Hustler both of which he published himself. Every fortnight in OutUK he answers your questions on being gay, sex and relationships and any other stuff you might want to ask. He says "My advice is based on my experiences in the sex industry, academia, and life. In no way am I a medical doctor, licensed psychologist, trained sex therapist, or God. Please read my advice with those limitations in mind".

Aaron 'sez: Hey, folks! I'm back from Russia and am in an absolutely wonderful mood. After having sex with sooooo many cute boys there (on film, of course!), I'm recharged and loving life.

So here is my latest column. There are a number of medical questions in here. Please keep in mind that I'm not a medical doctor, and consult with Dr. Goldstone to get answers to my questions. You can address questions directly to his own column though on his website at www.gayhealth.com (see below).

Aaron 'sez: I hope your bum prostate gives a wake-up call for all men over 50 (40 if you have a history of prostate problems in your family) to have their prostate checked. It's a minor examination, and it can save your life. Best wishes from Aaron's Advice over the next few years. Keep us informed how you're doing, okay?

Aaron 'sez: Thanks for the pumping story. As I've said before, there are no medically safe and "side effect-less" methods of permanently giving yourself a bigger dick. Your story just goes to say that one should be careful what they wish for, they may just get it in a way they don't expect.

Aaron 'sez: Rest assured friend, Catholics can be gay, as can Protestants, Orthodox Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Atheists, and everyone else. Just because your local church doesn't want to accept your sexuality doesn't change the fact that you may be gay. The Catholic Church has never been very good at chance, and is usually at least 50 years behind the surrounding society in terms of it's values.

You're only 14, so fortunately you have plenty of years ahead of you to come out and accept your sexuality. So don't beat yourself up over the issue. It's okay for you to masturbate a lot - I encourage you to develop some very hot fantasies about what you'd like to do. God knows every other 14 year-old kid is doing it too.

There are also two web resources you may want to check out as well. The first is "Out in Malaysia", a site all about gay life in Malaysia. Another is Dignity, a resource for Gay Catholics.

Above all, hang in there. Many countries are in a state of change on gay issues. Some are changing rapidly, some less so. But they are changing, and the world is slowly entering the 21st century on gay issues.

Aaron 'sez: Good news and bad news. The good news is that yes, the fluffer is the person who keeps male porn actors (straight or gay) behind the scenes. It's usually done by oral sex. The bad news is that it's almost entirely a mythical job. What fluffing needs to be done is usually done by the other models on the set. And with the rise of Viagra the need for fluffing has gone down (heh heh!) considerably. Having been an amateur video producer for several years now, I can also tell you that the ratio of offers I get to be fluffers and models is 2:1. And considering how rarely fluffers are used (read: essentially never), you'd better accept that those fantasies are likely to stay just that.

If you'd ever like to have even the vaguest remote chance of being a fluffer, you'd be wise to get some video experience to learn how a video shoot works and how to work with nervous actors. You'd also better start befriending a lot of porn producers, because you're going to need to know a bunch of them before you are even invited to a single set.

Aaron 'sez: The key to tying a towel around you so that it doesn't fall down is to do it tightly. If there is any slack in the towel, it will inevitably fall down quickly. First, experimentally wrap the towel around you so that the outside end (not the end next to your body) will wind up over the forward part of one of your sides. I say do this experimentally, because you're guessing at first where the inside edge of the towel should be. Once you've got an approximate measure of how much you went over or under your goal, you can redo the towel putting the inside edge closer to the ideal spot. It may take you a few tries to do this.

Now since the towel is tight, as you walk around you'll find that it loosens slightly. This is okay, although you may have to rewrap the towel at some point. It is advisable that you do so in front of someone you find attractive. If he checks you out, you've got a potential partner.

Also, keep in mind that stairs may be difficult to navigate with a tightly-wrapped towel on you. It depends on how far down the towel hangs on your body. The lower it goes, the more annoying it will be. Hence why some guys like to fold their towel in half before they put it on. It gives more freedom of movement, more access to the "fun regions" of your body, and shows a lot more flesh. (Indeed, some bathhouse managers learned this a long time ago. I used to frequent one bathhouse that had different sized towels depending on how good looking the manager thought you were).

As a side note, tightly-wrapped towels make a person's stomach look bigger. That's why some men tend to tie them around their stomachs rather than around your waistline. Next time you're in a bathhouse, take a note of what height level people have tied their towels. It'll give you a good idea about what their love handle situation is once those towels have been removed.

Aaron 'sez: I checked with Doc Goldstone for this one. According to his Doctorness, the chin growths may or may not be facial warts. If they are, they can be transmitted to other parts of his body or to you. They may not be facial warts though, in which case they could be irritated hair follicles. Or HPV-warts on his face. In the latter case they are also contagious. Your lover should see a dermatologist as soon as possible to have them examined. Until then you may be at risk of contracting them, and he may be at risk of spreading them over other areas of his body.

Aaron 'sez: According to Dr. Goldstone, yes, you can have anal sex. However radiation can cause some irritation to the lining of your rectum, which in turn can be painful and can make it easier to transmit STDs and HIV. If you experience any sort of pain or bleeding, you should stop having anal sex. As long as it doesn't hurt though you should be fine. If you are having problems with inflammation, try using a mild hydrocortisone suppository.

Aaron 'sez: I asked Doc Goldstone this one too. He said it didn't sound like an STD, but he did have a few interesting thoughts on what may be causing it. The first was irritation from drying of the mouth. If that's the case, licking his dick and making sure you have plenty of fluids in your mouth will help. (And I mean water, not cum). He also thought it might be a reaction to lubricant on the guy's dick. This is especially possible if the lube has nonoxynol-9 in it.

You may want to do your own experiments to see what factor(s) is causing it. Now that you've got a few theories, it should be too hard to determine if any of these are the cause.

Aaron 'sez: Youch what a long question! Memo to you: Next time you send such a long question I'll delete it. As it is I had to edit out half of what you said. A question should be able to be summarized in 100 words tops. : )

The Doc looked over your question and agreed that you have a very complicated medical problem regarding your skin and folliculitis. He said it didn't sound like an STD, but it was a complex problem that could not be diagnosed or treated through advice column. He suggested you make an appointment with a good dermatologist for a more thorough consultation.

My advice would be that if that doctor doesn't help you within six months, that you find someone else after that. Sometimes you have to shop around before you can have the more complex medical problems solved. Also, try looking for a doctor affiliated with a university hospital. Someone once told me that they tend to have a higher level of knowledge and skill than their non-university counterparts. This is because they need to stay on top of current knowledge in the field if they teach. Not sure if it's true or not, but it certainly can't hurt.

Aaron 'sez: Bad idea. Yohimbe can lower your blood pressure, as can Viagra. Doing both at once is asking for major trouble.

Aaron 'sez: You're in luck. There are very few Internet stings around the country designed to go after clients, excepting those who are attempting to hire people under 18. In that case the risks become extremely high.

I suggest staying active on the message forums on www.male4malescorts.com. They have some of the most current and up-to-date information on the subject available. Otherwise I wouldn't worry. Vice cops are far more likely to go after online escorts than clients.

Aaron 'sez: There are several good ways to do this, and none of them are correct. You'll have to learn how your boyfriend likes having his dick jacked off. Some guys love it and can cum easily. Others find that it gives them little pleasure.

One of the best ways is to have your boyfriend lie on his back and spread his legs. Sit down between them and slide your legs forward so that they are under his and next to his sides. Put a pillow under his head to make him comfortable, and behind your back to help you sit up. In this position both of your hands are free. You can jack him off and rub your other hands on his balls, thighs, stomach, chest, or anywhere else that he enjoys.

Another position involves laying down beside him. He lays on his back, you lay on your side with your hand free. You can put your other arm under his head to hold him steady as you kiss and masturbate him. A lot of guys like being jacked off in this position, but it can be tiring on your arm after while. Often you eventually have to sit up next to him because your arm gets too tired otherwise.

One other good way is to have him sit on your lap or between your legs. You can do this on a chair or sitting on your bed with your back against the headboard. Just twist and adjust yourselves a bit so you can kiss him while you jack him off. If you can work out a position that is comfortable for both of you, you'll find you can jack him off for long periods of time without your arm getting tired.

Try asking him how he'd like to do it. There are lots of possible positions to masturbate someone. Think about it for a few minutes and you'll come up with plenty more. In some you can even be fucking him or having him suck you at the same time. Be creative, keep playing, and don't let your desire to get him off mask your ability to learn what he truly enjoys. That's the secret to truly being a good lover.

Aaron 'sez: You have anal warts, or you may have a bump that is something else. In either case, don't worry about people thinking you're gay. Straight guys get these ailments just as easily as anyone else. Go see your doctor and have him take a look. It's important you do so rather than just ignore them, because if they are warts they will spread and get worse, and can eventually cause serious medical problems.

Aaron 'sez: As you well know, not everyone likes being jacked off with any sort of lube or oil. So next time someone goes to put oil on your dick, stop him and tell him you prefer it dry. Lots of guys prefer it that way. If I had to guess from my own experience, I'd guess 3/4 of guys don't use lube when they masturbate. That being said, 3/4 of guys can use it without any noticeable problem. Either way, it really is a matter of personal preference. If you like it dry, then by all means do it that way. If you keep forgetting to tell your partners not to use oil, then there's not a lot of advice I can give you. Tie a string in a bow around your dick perhaps? He'll ask why you have it there, reminding you to tell him you don't like your dick lubed.

As for fucking, some people find that putting a touch of lubricant inside a condom gives them greater sensitivity. Others find just the opposite. You should experiment to determine what you like. You can also use ultra-thin condoms for greater sensitivity too, although remember that they have a higher breakage rate. But as you said, you're not a top so that really won't be an issue for you.

Aaron sez: I receive many submissions of questions I have already answered. Aaron's Advice is published every couple of weeks in OutUK and you can see my past OutUK columns in the OutBack archive.

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For more information about gay health, check out Dr. Goldstone's book, The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex.

Suburban Hustler - Memoirs Of A HiTech Callboy is Aaron's first bestseller which has sold more than 200,000 copies at AmazonUK alone. Available here.