"Oh God, I'm gonna...I'm gonna...I'm gonna..."
For those of us who like to remain on the brink, who believe the journey's more
important than the goal, "edging" can fill the boy-meets-boy bill. The postponement
of orgasm, especially at the hands of someone else, can make a hot scene hotter,
prolonging the ecstasy to near-agony levels.
"I really enjoy running elaborate edging scenes," says one kinky man who's handy
with rope. "I'll tie a guy down to the bed so he can't touch himself or push me
away, then play with him but not allow him to come until he's begging me for release."
Not all edging gets quite so kinky, but many a man enjoys making a guy almost shoot,
backing off, then ramping up again, and on and on. While any sort of sex can be part
of an edging scene, often masturbation is the weapon of choice. As one edging expert
points out, "It's pretty easy to edge when you're giving someone a hand job, since
you have all that control…just the right pressure in just the right place, then
At the hands of a master masturbator, an almost-but-not-quite session can be quite a
thrill. "My boyfriend knows how to prolong the buildup to orgasm," enthuses one
edgee. "It can get so intense that I'm gasping for air. And when I finally do
come, it's unbelievably intense."
Skilled edging tops tend to be sensitive to feedback, since one false move can
result in a quick and sticky conclusion. When a guy is getting close, variations
in touch, such as a feather-light stroking of dickhead or shaft, or even a
near-painful squeeze, can postpone the penis's pumping. And when a cock is
just about to shoot, backing off and stimulating other parts of the body -nipples,
asshole, whatever - keeps the erotic tension high while the sap subsides.
The best edging tops usually are enthusiastic, experienced masturbators themselves.
Party-of-one practice can not only make perfect, it can teach where and how to stroke
to keep things just on the brink. Our edging expert recalls, "It all started with me
prolonging my own jack-off sessions. I'd lock myself in the bathroom and go at
it for hours, one delicious thrill after another after another. It got so I
was getting blisters on my equipment. And then I decided I might as well do the
same thing to other guys." He smiles. "But it's only recently that I learned it
has a name."
Being a successful edging bottom requires its own set of skills. Some guys are going
to come quickly, no matter what they do. The rest of us, though, can learn to slow
down the rush toward orgasm. Once again, exploring solo can help. Deep breathing
can delay things, as can shifting your concentration. ("Think about something besides
how your prick feels," advises our edgee.) And some men have found that tightening
pelvic muscles can subdue the urge to squirt.
But pleasurable as solo edging can be, two-man scenes can be even more fun. Whether the
deed is done through a hand job or a blow job, the buildup to shooting can be exquisitely
pleasurable torture. Communication, whether in words or nonverbally, is certainly central
to success. And a certain amount of sadomasochistic subtext can keep things even hotter.
"I love it when a man just begs me to let him come," says the kinky edger-with-ropes.
"And I love it even more when I tell him no."
Getting there is, proverbially, half the fun. And the bliss of a prolonged journey to jism
can be fun with a capital "Fuck"!