So what can a guy do about an over-eager knob? Well, let's assume that
some
possible anti-erection moves - drinking too much, taking amphetamines,
using
impotence-producing prescription drugs - are simply too dangerous to
consider.
That leaves several possibilities.
First, there's avoidance of stimuli. Sean could end his relationship
with his
erection-producing boyfriend, but that hardly seems reasonable. And the
man
who complains, "Every time I look at a man's crotch, I get hard," can
stop
looking, but how likely is that?
There's also the possibility of getting in some pre-date chicken
choking,
thereby lessening the reaction (however temporarily) when with Mr.
Wood-producer. And, hey, a quick wank is always fun, right? Just pay
attention and avoid a There's Something About Mary incident.
There's also concealment. It's easier today to hide an errant stiffy
with
baggy skater-boy pants than it was in the days when skin-tight jeans
were all
the rage. Oversized, untucked shirts can work, too, if they suit your
fashion
image. But it's what you wear under your pants that can make the real
difference. While tight underwear or a sturdy jockstrap won't keep a
dick
from getting hard, it will direct it upward against the belly, where it
can
throb less obtrusively. Spandex bicycle shorts are particularly adept
at dick
control. Rubber fetishwear shorts do the job, too, and are way kinky to
boot.
Of course, comfort counts. Boner-binding underwear shouldn't produce
any more
pain more than you'd get from standard blue balls. Watch out for
chafing. And
remember that rubber undies don't breathe, so they'll make you sweat
and may
produce jock itch as well.
There's another possible solution: the "Slut Option." While only
hardcore
exhibitionists want to strut around proceeded by intrusive erections,
sporting a semi-perceptible woody is no crime. If concealment's not
totally
effective, it might be just as well to get beyond embarrassment. After
all,
half the human race gets erections, and most of the other half is at
least
reluctantly tolerant of male lust. What Sean was reluctant to say to
his
boyfriend boils down to, "You turn me on so much, you hot stud," and
that's
something that, let's face of it, most of us would love to hear. And if
a man
with a bulge in his khakis seems sex-obsessed, well, most of us are
sex-obsessed and we might just as well fess up to the fact.
In time, the average 21-year-old sex machine may become a middle-aged
man
asking his doctor about Viagra. So, while the satyr with a stiffy might
not
want to sport it in the Communion line, there's a time and place for
everything. Boner-boy might wear supportive underwear, not rub up
against
strangers on a bus, but otherwise just relax and enjoy the ride. And
who else
would notice the bulge, unless they were cruising crotches, the pervs?
Simon Sheppard
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Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also
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