Gently used, fingers stroke. With more force, they can probe and
squeeze nipples and balls. Many cocksuckers love to suck fingers as
stretching the mouth wide for a handful.
And, maybe best of all, there's what happens when fingers meet asshole.
an anal bottom finds digital assplay every bit as delightful as
fucking. A cock up the butt certainly has its pleasures, but fingers -
flexible, bendable, and versatile - can also do amazingly pleasurable
A guy need not be experienced in getting fucked to find fingers fun.
finger play is a great way to explore the potential pleasures of anal
eroticism. Gentle rubbing of the outside of the hole is a good place to
start, getting a man accustomed to having someone else playing with his
nether parts. And the pad of the thumb, well-lubricated, can gradually
its way inside. Sphincter muscles are strong, but can be coaxed into
relaxing, and that's when the pleasures of penetration start. (Though
everyone feels that way. "I find it easier and more comfortable to take
penis inside me than a finger," says one man. "I guess the thicker
persuades me to open wide.")
After a bit of sliding and stroking, the bottom's butt might be ready
a second finger, or even a fourth. Unlike a dick's basic, piston-like
fingers are capable of all sorts of anus-exciting choreography.
fingers back and forth, perhaps pumping in and out, will open the hole
Quick, small motions turn the fingers into an all-organic vibrator. And
hooking a finger or two in the right direction provide direct
the prostate gland - the male G-spot - providing waves of ecstatic
and intensified orgasms.
The top, meanwhile, gets the pleasure of penetrating his partner and
providing sexual joy, and many guys enjoy the power-trip aspects of it,
And if the top craves direct stimulation, his other hand can easily do
jack-off work. Perhaps even better, with a bit of acrobatics the bottom
can suck the top's cock while the fingerfucking progresses, creating a
red-hot circuit of sex.
While fingerfucking may lack some of the risks of cock-based
there are still safety tips to keep in mind. If the top has any cuts on
hand, blood-borne diseases - including hepatitis and HIV - can be
transmitted, so latex gloves are advisable. If a glove is unavailable,
rolled-down rubber can pinch hit as finger protection. Lots of
lubricant will keep things good and slippery, and the top's fingernails
should be well-trimmed. And, of course, the butt is full of nasty bugs
should be kept out of another person's mouth or ass. Conveniently, when
gloves are peeled off, they turn themselves inside out, making it
tidy up. A gentle douche beforehand will also keep things cleaner.
Queer men get to make their own rules about sex. There's no reason to
privilege penile intercourse; fingerfucking can serve as a warm-up for
sticking a dick in, but it also can be a totally thrilling end in
Fingers, unlike dildos and vibrators, are ever-ready sex toys we always
with us. No need to pack. And, unlike those sometimes-finicky dickies,
there's never a problem with getting fingers stiff. So thank goodness
digits, from thumb to pinky - little sex machines, each one.
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