'60s and early '70s, when modern gay radicalism was born, long hair
nonconformism, sensuality, and a challenge to rigid gender norms. "I
remember," says one middle-aged man, now nearly bald, "how sexy and
felt with all my long hair swirling around."|
Time passes; fashions change. Among young gays, rebellious hippie
gave way to butch short cuts. But some guys still love long locks,
among other things, hair makes their cocks hard. Says forty-ish Paul,
it difficult to explain why I find long hair a turn-on. Like guys who
turned on by leather or No. 1 crops, it just is. It could be called a
but it seems broader than that."
After all, longer hair can be a sensual delight. Says one tough-looking
with a liking for long locks, "I love to see a naked guy lying in bed
his hair like a halo on the pillow. And hey, when a long-haired man
head, I have something to grab onto - I use his hair like a leash to
But though we're a community that's supposed to celebrate diversity, it
many queer guys wear the badge of the Fashion Police. Says Paul, "I
run into men who have a negative attitude toward me and others with
locks. They make comments like, 'You should get it clippered; the '60s
over.' And all the advertisements in gay publications feature men with
short hair. Don't the people doing the ads realize that not all of us
the same taste in men?"
Perhaps part of the problem is that over the years, long hair has often
associated with guys that don't seem very queer: heavy-metal bands,
professional footballers, Peter Stringfellow, Status Quo.
maybe some of it has to do with the changing self-definition of many
less rebellious now, less gender-bending. And long hair on men is a
a generation that's gotten middle-aged and thus - supposedly - less
"I know this is not a major issue, more of a minor annoyance, " Paul
continues, "but I've even had friends tell me that they prefer longer
but have cut theirs to 'fit in.'" So one day, after watching a TV
on the early days of gay parades, noticing how diverse the crowds
Paul decided to take hair-roots... er... grass-roots action. He founded
group called "Queers Who Shun Shears." A dozen longhaired men got
planning to march in pride parades and start a Web site.
One thing's for certain, though. Trends may come and go, but fetishism
marches on. At least one gay fetish Web site has pages of pictures of
longhairs, right next to pics of foot fanciers and bound-up bottoms.
the tough top points out, hair can be a fetishistic sex toy: "There's
more you can do with long hair than with a skinhead crop. I like to have my
massaged with hair or to wrap it around my hard-on. Feels great."
Remember, many fashions get recycled; yesterday's castoffs are
styles. So don't throw away that old hairbrush; like chinos and
shoes, long, silken, below-the-shoulders hair and bushy Afros may make
reappearance sooner than you think. And in the meantime, Paul and his
are getting stiff when they see long, beautiful hair.