Frottage may not be celebrated in videos and porn stories, may not even be talked
about too much, but let's face it, most of us do it. It's a lovely part of making
out, and can be a full-fledged art in itself. There's not even any technique to
learn; just do what feels good, and you've got it.
And not only is frottage hot and easy, suitable for beginners and hardened sluts
alike, it's also pretty damn safe, assuming that precum or cum doesn't make contact
with the other guy's butthole or urethra. (It's a bad idea to use another guy's jizz
as your jacking-off lube, though.)
Body-to-body contact need not be limited to the good ol' Oxford rub; exploring
all of a guy's flesh, from head to toe, can be a real treat. There's the familiar
"How about a backrub?" come-on, which has gotten many a semi-reluctant partner to
put out. Massage, whether leisurely and sensual, or penetrating and intense, can
be intensely sexy. The preliminary stroking of the neck and shoulders, moving on
down the back, further down toward the butt, the kneading of the buttocks, reaching
down between the legs...oh, it's yummy. And--assuming you're not going to be moving
on to the sort of sex where condoms are a necessity--there are delightful oils and
lotions that can be used, from scented commercial products to gently warmed olive oil.
(A housekeeping tip, though--use a bedsheet you don't mind getting stained.)
Though we often think of "sex" as dicks-butts-and-mouths stuff, the entire body,
properly stimulated, can be an erogenous zone. Guys into ass will probably enjoy
jerking themselves off against buttcheeks or, rubbered-up and lubed, can get off
rubbing hard-on against buttcrack without ever entering the inner sanctum. Some
foot fetishists love to screw a guy's soles, or stick their dicks between a pair of
nice size 10s. Chest, armpit, belly, they're all delicious. Stroke it, knead it,
rub up against it...remember, sex is supposed to feel good.
"I just love kissing somebody while we rub our bodies together," says one guy
who's otherwise kinky as hell. "It can be sexy, intimate, and, if you'll excuse
my using the word, romantic." And that goes for old marrieds as well as couples who
have just met. We can be so damn goal-oriented, eager to get where we're going.
But each man's body, each guy's reactions, is unique. Slow down, enjoy the scenery,
take a side trip or two, and you'll find some rewarding spots, whether for a quick
stop-over or for an extended visit. As the French say, "Ooh la la!"
Simon Sheppard
Now here's your chance to meet the man behind this column. OutUK has an interview with Simon Sheppard or you can take a look at some of his books that are currently available:
Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also
co-editor of Rough Stuff: Tales of Gay Men, Sex, and
Power as well as a collection of gay erotica called
Hotter Than Hell.
In KINKORAMA : Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion he takes readers behind the unmarked doors and black vinyl curtains that lead to the sometimes shocking, often hilarious, relentlessly arousing scenarios of extreme sex. There
are also stories of bears in Tales from the Bear Cult: Beat Bear Stories from the Best Magazines.
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