Now that we're all grown up and think we might actually
have a chance to get in their pants, those unfulfilled desires provide an extra
tweak of lust. "There was my friend Mike," Will recalls. "When I'd come home from
uni, before he got married, he'd let me suck him. And," he says wistfully, "it was so big!"
Doctrinaire political types look askance at the idea of eroticizing straight guys.
They say that to believe breeders are sexier, are more desirable, than gay men
smacks of internalized homophobia - the same with sex ads that specify "straight-acting."
But lust isn't all that simple; clearly, there are other factors at work.
There's the power of seduction, for one. Getting straight guys to do stuff they're
not supposed to gives us a certain power over them: they may say they're upright
heterosexuals, but we have the chops to prove that when they're not upright, they're
as queer as the rest of us.
But at the heart of things, there's the concept of "masculinity." Now, it's perfectly
obvious that not every straight boy is as butch as Roy Keane; David Beckham,
for instance, is as straight as they come, and no one would ever confuse him with
rough trade. But there are, let's face it, some behavioural differences between many
straight guys and many gay guys. And since we're attracted to men, the thinking goes,
why not chase after men who are real men?
One guy I met online told me, "There's just something raw about straight guys...
the idea that they're not meticulous... sometimes gay guys are too neat, too
clean." After all, who wants to sleep with someone who neatly folds his CK boxers
before he hops into bed?
Curiously, gay men who want straight guys usually want to suck their dicks. Not
to get fucked by them, not to top them in any significant way, but to get down on
their gay knees and give pleasure to some straight stud. It's interesting on several
levels, because though the cocksucker "services" the straight suckee, he also takes
temporary control of the dick being sucked, and walks away with something of the
straight guy's - his jizz. So who's using whom? Also, getting your dick sucked is
pretty damn gender-neutral. With his eyes closed, can a man really tell if it's a
man or a woman sucking him off? Like I said, interesting...
I asked another online acquaintance, who cruises using a screen name that
offers blow jobs for straight men, just what he finds so appealing about playing with
breeder boys. "They're always horny as hell and you don't have to care for them when they
are sick," he said. "They don't stay for breakfast. And I'll never have to wash their
underwear."
Doesn't that just about say it all?
Simon Sheppard
Now here's your chance to meet the man behind this column. OutUK has an interview with Simon Sheppard or you can take a look at some of his books that are currently available:
Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also
co-editor of Rough Stuff: Tales of Gay Men, Sex, and
Power as well as a collection of gay erotica called
Hotter Than Hell.
In KINKORAMA : Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion he takes readers behind the unmarked doors and black vinyl curtains that lead to the sometimes shocking, often hilarious, relentlessly arousing scenarios of extreme sex. There
are also stories of bears in Tales from the Bear Cult: Beat Bear Stories from the Best Magazines.
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