This Week - Pain in the balls, Porn stars and Undies fetishes

Jono says: Hi James, I am hoping you can help solve my problem. This is something that has been causing me pain for sometime and I feel unable to discuss this matter with my doctor. Whenever I have anal sex with my partner (when he fucks me) I get a really terrible pain in my testicles and also along the right side just above my cock. Sometimes this passes after an hour, but sometimes this pain, much like being kicked in the balls continues for much longer. It does not seem to matter if intercourse is slow or hard, my balls are not getting banged so I don't think that is causing the pain. Can you suggest what is going on and what I can do to prevent this pain.

James says: Hi Jono, when you develop some sort of a pain then this is your body's way of telling you that something is not right. Do not delay anymore, go and seek advice from a doctor who can ask you detailed questions and also fully examine you.

When dealing with sexually related matters it is often much easier and also less embarrassing to go to an STD clinic as they only deal with sexual problems and are highly experienced in this area. They can give you the kind of expert advice you need.

This is not an issue for an advice column, this is an issue for a doctor. Go and see someone who specialises in sexual health, they deal with these kinds of problems every single day so there's no need to feel embarrassed about anything!

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krestian wants to know: Hey, how do you become a porn star? I am a good looking boy from Denmark, age 23 190/80/20cm. Is it fun or are there many pitfalls?

James replies: First of all, for other people rather than you specifically, if you want to get into any type of adult modelling then you must be over 18 - you won't be offered any work until you are, entirely for legal reasons. There are various different levels to which you can take modelling work but if you are starting out then it's best to try a photo shoot first and then if you like that and it goes well, you can move on to doing filmed work and into duos and more.

If you want to try some adult modelling then you can go to www.outuk.com/models and fill out the application to be a model for OutUK who do solo and duo photo shoots. They normally arrange solo shoots for first time new models, but you can obviously do a duo for them if you prefer.

You can also apply to the company I work for, FreshSX, at www.freshsx.com/freshnew/workforus.html. FreshSX is a film production company and they normally organise a filmed duo for a first shoot with an experienced model, personal trainers style!

As far as films go most studios accept online applications but it is worth remembering that each studio has its own style so take a look at the models they usually use and if you are similar to them, then you can apply.

When you send your photos use pictures that are recent and actually look like you! And don't hide anything - if you have a big tattoo down your back then make sure that this is clear. Send 4 or 5 that show your body in full, and a close up of your face.

Obviously the better looking you are the easier it is to get work in modelling although many companies like OutUK and FreshSX like to use more natural looking guys which means you don't need to be perfect - a cute face, good body, big dick or cute ass will always help you, but you don't necessarily need to have all of them!

The most important thing is to enjoy it and also to have the desire to do it. A good attitude is really important, you must get on well with other models and the photographer or crew. If the thought of having someone film or photograph you naked turns you on then you would be good at adult modelling. If you are just doing it for what you think is easy money - then don't bother!

At the end of the day it should be a lot of fun but check first how the studio works. If you have any doubts or questions then find out all you need to know before you do the shoot! It is always much better to sort out things in advance - it makes the whole thing more relaxed!

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Adam sneaks in this: Is it normal to go sneeking round my Uncle's room and try to find his underwear, sniff it and wear it (do some licking and smelling)?

James answers: Hi Adam well you ask if all this is 'normal' but then what is 'normal' anyway? The idea of normality will vary according to the individual and although for a lot of people the idea of sniffing or licking someone elses underwear would not be a major turn on for others such as yourself it can be fun!

Different things turn people on in different ways and it is important to find out what particular things are sexy for you so that you enjoy your sex life more. Because sniffing someone else's underwear in secret is a little out of the ordinary you will need to be careful though. What would happen if someone found you doing this?

Have you thought about why it is your Uncle who's underwear you like and what meaning he has to you? And have you considered why you are into this as well? Is it the thrill of doing something that you maybe shouldn't be doing, is it just that you like underwear in general, or is it associated entirely with your Uncle?

I think that you should try and find a boyfriend who also likes underwear...not only wearing it but enjoying it as part of your sex life. Sneaking off with other people's undies is only going to get you in trouble or cause you embarassment. If you find another undies lover you can have all the briefs fun you like without risking problems.

There are Underwear nights at many clubs and bars throughout the UK, and you'll probably find someone who's as happy wearing your boxers as you are his.

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