This Week - Ass orgasms, Escort advice and Getting all tied up

tj gets worked up with this: Hi James. I don't know if you have ever heard of this topic, but do you know anything about an ass orgasm? I've heard friends describe it as an intense feeling, which I have never had. Any info would be greatly appreciated.

James says: Well an ass orgasm most often occurs when you are being fingered or fucked and the sensation you have is so intense that it actually feels like you are having a full scale orgasm in your ass.

Not everyone can have them as you need to really be able to let go and relax into sex to achieve it. I guess the key to being able to have an ass orgasm is firstly to really enjoy being a bottom, and to be totally at ease with it. You need to really love the feeling of being fingered or fucked and guys who have ass orgasms tend to be more inclined to be power bottoms as well. Power Bottoms participate fully in the sex by moving themselves into positions that satisfy them more whilst they control their anal muscles internally as well, and this gives them and their partner greater satisfaction.

A further factor that can really help in achieving an ass orgasm is to have a partner with a big dick as that can more easily stimulate the prostate and as he can also go very deep inside that helps to give a real feeling of you having an orgasm in your ass!

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Colin needs advice: I was wondering how a guy who wants to be an escort can make sure he stays healthy. What are the steps and precautions, apart from always using a condom, that are really the best practices to follow? What about physical safety too?

James replies: Hi Colin, well if you work as an escort you are considered to be at high risk for sexually transmitted diseases and therefore would need to take extra steps to ensure your health doesn't suffer.

Firstly as you say anal sex should always be with a condom. Some health workers would also advise you to use a condom for oral sex although some clients may not be too happy about that, so you would have to decide on your policy on that one. There is a very small risk of HIV transmission from sucking so it is something to be aware of.

By using condoms you can be in a strong position to not get infected by HIV however the other STD's like Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis and the like can all be caught through a range of other sexual activities including sucking or being sucked and rimming. The best thing to do if you are working as an escort is to make very regular appointments at an STD clinic and make sure you get all the vacinations that you can have up to date, for example, for Hepatitis A and B.

As for your physical safety some common sense will help with this. Never get yourself into a situation that feels dangerous or uncomfortable. It can also be a good idea to have someone who you know well always have the address of where you are going. That way if something happens they can try and get hold of you. Just be on your guard and if you get into a situation that doesn't seem right or you sense that something is wrong then try and get away for your own safety.

It would be a really good idea to hook up with an experienced escort before you go out on your first date as he could give you some great advice on how to make the right decisions when working as an escort.

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Dickie in Dorchester gets tied up with this: Hi James, can you tell me if tying up your cock and balls can do any long term damage? It gives me a rock hard cock, and I find it is the only way I can get aroused these days with my longterm boyfriend.

James answers: Hi there, well yes anything tied tight around your cock and balls can do damage. Even a cock ring which is not necessarily that tight can do damage over time so you should be careful.

The problem comes from the fact that the penis is composed of millions of blood vessels and constricting the flow of blood into it can cause numbness, discoloration and severe pain. By tying your cock and balls up, much in the same way as using a cock ring, your erection should only increase slightly. If it swells up too much then it is tied up too tight and you need to untie it. Also it should never be tied up for very long, especially if there is any pain or the genitals feel cold.

You can after some time become quite dependent on wearing a cock ring or tying up your cock and balls and you could actually end up doing yourself damage. You should never wear it all night as you could wake up with an erection only to find that you can't get rid of it due to priapism, or prolonged erection, which is caused by blood coagulation in the penis.

Maybe you should look at some other ways of getting aroused apart from this? Have you tried threesomes, porn, outdoor sex, toys, sex parties, etc? There are loads of ways to spice up your sex life, and something else instead of this, or as well as this might be a way of preventing you doing yourself some serious longterm damage!

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