This Week - Long sessions, HIV worries and Gay haemorrhoids

Brett cums up with this: James, I really like to masturbate. Sometimes I masturbate for hours after which I have pain in my balls. Is it normal?

James says: Well Brett we are all different and yes some guys do like to masturbate for hours and hours, and obviously it is possible that with so much friction over a period of time you could get some irritation or pain.

Often guys get pain in the balls if they are sexually stimulated but don't cum so think about this as well, the symptom is popularly known as "Blue Balls". If you wank yourself often but then do not cum that may well be the cause of the pain you are experiencing.

If you are really concerned about the pain or if the pain lasts for a considerable amount of time (such as it still hurts the following day) then consider going to the doctor or STD clinic to find out if they think you are doing any damage to yourself! Don't mess around with this, if you have pain you need to fix it, and not leave the issue unresolved.

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Jon asks: Hi James, can you help? I am here to ask something about AIDS/HIV. I don't know if french kissing and masturbation between two guys can spread HIV. My first gay experience was a french kiss and being touched on my private place by a guy, and I don't know whether he has HIV or not. So could you give me some suggestions about safe sex and whether I should be concerned about the experience I had?

James replies: Hi Jon, well you really need to understand that there is absolutely no chance of catching HIV (which is the virus that leads on to AIDS) through kissing or masturbating.

The only way you can catch HIV is through direct contact with blood or cum that enters the body. The most common ways of HIV infection is from sharing needles used for injecting drugs and fucking without a condom. If sex is unprotected there is a slightly higher risk from being bottom than top - both are very risky, but there is much higher risk to the bottom when the top ejaculates inside.

There is a much smaller risk of catching HIV from sucking. If you have cuts or sores in your mouth it is possibile to contract HIV but this is considered to be a much lower risk. Kissing, even french kissing is considered as low risk, so you should not worry about this.

In your case I really don't think you have to worry. The activities you have taken part in are generally regarded as safe sex, so even if your partner was HIV+, and you don't know that he was, you are not likely to have put yourself at risk from what you have done.

Of course, as we always say, if you are genuinely worried and cannot get this out of your mind you should take advice. Go to your local STD clinic, the details of which you will find in your local phonebook. The staff there are used to dealing with this situation, and will give you some good advice and reassurance. Don't be scared, or intimidated by this. Staff at STD clinics deal with questions like this every day and tend to be helpful, sympathetic and understanding.

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Peter piles on the pressure: Hi James, Is it possible for guys to have anal sex if they have haemorrhoids? Is it painful? Should the guy wait for it to go away? Will they get worse if he has anal sex?

James answers: Hi Peter, well haemorrhoids are a condition that do need to be allowed to heal before you ever think of having anal sex.

Haemorrhoids can be irritated and made worse if you have sex before they go away. They can also make sex very painful as well, and to be honest it won't be the most enjoyable of experiences for either you or your partner.

Most doctors would suggest that you would be best advised to wait for them to go away before having sex. You need to talk to you doctor and get some treatment or medication that will speed up your recovery from this situation. If you try and deal with this yourself you could end up with haemorrhoids for months and months, even years, so take affirmative action now, and sort it out.

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