This Week - Anal toys, Too much cum and Prostate fun

John shoves this in: Hi James, I am looking to start experimenting with anal toys for the first time. What sort of thing do you suggest and how do you go about it for the first time?

James says: Hi John, you know toys can be a lot of fun but don't be surprised if you actually find out that you don't like them, as a lot of guys don't! Even guys who love to be bottom find they don't actually like toys that much so go into this with an open mind. You'll find a lot of guys often say that they much prefer the real thing!

The key things to consider when buying a dildo is what it is made of and how big it is. Even if you are used to being a bottom you don't want to choose a dildo that is too big, so don't be too greedy!

Try and choose one which has a good texture and is solid but also flexible. If a dildo is too soft and wobbly it can be hard to use, particularly getting it inside you can be difficult. If it is too hard though it can be uncomfortable or even painful to use so it is best to choose something that is firm yet flexible.

When you come to use it take your time and relax. Make sure you use lots of lube and as usual with anything up your ass you should always stop the minute it hurts. You need to take your time and relax and enjoy it. If you find you don't enjoy it then stop as that's your body's way of telling you not to carry on!

You do need to be careful whenever using a dildo as you can cause damage if you try something that is too large. You should also make sure you use a dildo with a moulded end or handle otherwise it could disappear inside you and you really don't want to go to hospital to have it removed!

Take time, use loads of lube, and start small so you can work your way up are all my top tips. Enjoy!

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Jake cums up with this: Hi, Could you help me. It's about my boyfriend. He's 20 and he's just recently started to have sexual relations with me. Prior to meeting me he was a virgin. I am not sure if I should be concerned but when we have sex he sweats profusely but I am more concerned about the amount of sperm fluid he ejaculates. He spurts out at least half a mug of sperm. Is this natural or is there something wrong with him. When we have sex regularly his sperm is quite runny but if we have waited a day or two his sperm is very thick. He also has a lot of preseminal fluid before he ejaculates. I can see sticky fluid starting to come out of his cock through his boxer shorts even before I have taken his boxers off him. He does not have any problems in satisfying me and he never ejaculates prematurely. I am happy with the immense pleasure he gives me and I have not mentioned this to him. Also, why does cum taste different even though it's from the same guy.

James replies: Hi Jake. We are all different and we all produce different amounts of pre-cum during sex and cum when we ejaculate. The amount of sperm produced can deminish with age, and there's a definate link between high sperm levels and first sexual experiences.

So if you add the elements together - he is young, he's just lost his virginity and may be someone who produces a lot of cum anyway you shouldn't be so concerned! Just enjoy yourselves and stop worrying.

Sperm also does change in consistency over time and does get thicker the longer it stays inside. That is why if you come many times each day you will end up producing less cum and it may be less thick. It will also taste different depending on it's thickness. Additionally, cum always tastes different according to overall diet and specfically what you have just eaten. All guys taste slightly different from one another, same as they look different and smell different, and sound different, and everything else about them is different, and that makes them who they are.

As for sweating that too, that is also quite normal, it's just a fact that some guys sweat more than others no matter what exercise they get, and sex can be the most exciting exercise possible. Of course if you are concerned about any of these things then you could suggest he visits his doctor, but only if it's really a problem - not if it's just something slightly different from some of the other guys you've been with.

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Karl needs to know: When I'm receiving anal sex - I want to feel the guy's penis stimulating my prostate gland. However, I sometimes feel a very urgent and very uncomfortable feeling like I need to visit the bathroom. My partners are patient with me during insertion and stop their thrustings to allow me to relieve myself - but then I can't. How do I overcome this problem and enjoy anal sex more easily?

James answers: Hi there. You know I think that this mainly comes down to not being so used to receiving anal sex. The more sex you have the easier it gets and you should find that the sensation of wanting to go to the toilet while being fucked will subside as well.

Stop worrying about this so much. You really should try and visit the bathroom before you get the guy into the bedroom, and then put all other thoughts out of your mind. This strikes me as a issue not unlike premature ejaculation or the inability to ejaculate at all. These problems get worse the more you worry about them, and are more often than not a issue of the mind rather than one of the body.

It is entirely normal for you to get used to anal sex the more you have it, and then you will find it easier to be fucked harder and deeper for longer periods of time. The whole experience will get better and better for you, and problems like those you are experiencing now will soon be a thing of the past. Just stop worrying, and start enjoying!

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