This Week - Jack worries, Thinking sex and Spit-roasting

Confused asks this question: Hi James, if you're jacking a guy off and you get his cum on your hands then you jack off yourself, is there a risk of contracting AIDS?... Assuming you have no cuts or scrapes on your cock or hands.

James says: Hi there, well the first thing to say is that you would never directly contract AIDS. AIDS is the full form of the HIV virus once it has taken control of the body, and it is not something you can catch immediately and directly.

You can acquire the HIV virus from being in contact with infected cum or blood but it has to pass directly into your body for there to be a high risk of contracting anything. HIV is normally transmitted from fucking without a condom or from being passed on in blood, for example, when drug users share needles. There is some debate about whether HIV can also be transmitted from sucking someone's cock or if a guy cums in your mouth, but the risks here are considered to be much lower.

If you are jacking off with a guy and he cums on your hands and then you jack yourself off too, the cum has not entered your body and therefore you would not be at a high risk of contracting HIV. Just remember that HIV is normally only present in cum and blood passed directly into the body from an HIV positive person to another.

The best way to stay HIV negative is to always fuck with a condom and to be careful with getting cum in your mouth. Sucking without a condom is considered to be a lower risk but if you have any sores in your mouth then that risk increases and there is also a higher risk with someone cumming in your mouth as well.

Anyone injecting should never share needles as that is also the highest risk activity.

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Tim fantasises about this: I wonder how many times a day most people think about sex? I think I do almost every hour I'm awake, and always when going to sleep, and even when I'm at work. Quite often I get a hard-on or partial hard-on. Is this normal, or do you think I have a problem?

James replies: Hi Tim, well they do say that generally guys think about sex every second of the day although I don't think that is true for all guys!

I guess some people are more into sex than others and some are more sexually active or more interested in sex than others. We are of course all different so the fact that you say you are thinking about sex all the time could be because you are just a very sexual person.

There is a danger of becoming obsessed with sex which happens to some people. There are healthy limits to everything in life, including sex! If your thinking and/or participation in sex begins to actually harm your health or negatively impact your life, or if it prevents you from doing other things that you would otherwise be doing, then there is a clear indication that it is time to start taking some serious action.

Your local GUM clinic will be able to help. If you are unhappy with the number of times that you are thinking about sex then you can seek some therapy to help you think about sex less and do more with your life.

Of course the other reason you think about sex so much might also be because you are not actually getting enough sex and are sexaully frustrated. The key to losing this frustration is to have more sex and to cum more often.

After a man has cum then the desire to have sex dissapears - for some guys this comes back quite fast and for others it takes longer but it can certainly help to alleviate temporarily your thoughts or desires for sex! So try and come more, and fantasise less!

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Sean realy wants some fun: James, I am about to try the threesome in which I get plugged at both ends (one guy fucking me while the other puts his dick in my mouth). How on earth can I get them both to cum at the same time? Is it that difficult? The answer seems to be to get them to have an equal rhythm, to let one guy fuck me in the ass and the other to fuck my mouth in the same beat. How would you go about this?

James answers: Hi Sean, well unfortunately you are talking about your 2 sex buddies as if they are robots and if you press all the right buttons in the correct order they will both cum at the same time!

Yes, we all do this in porn movies and there is a certain amount of training you can do to try and control how much and when you cum but for most people this never really happens and it is left just to the porn stars who learn how to do it, or the video editors who make it look as though it did.

Back in the real world what makes each person cum is an individual thing and of course some people are able to cum much more easily than others. You can never predict what will send a guy over the edge. There are some men who find it hard to cum while fucking someone and there are an awful lot of guys who just aren't able to shoot in someone's mouth while being sucked.

The fact that you are trying to coordinate a form of synchronised cuming is really asking quite a lot! Of course you may be lucky and it may just happen that both guys are really horny and shoot at the same time but it is not going to be really easy.

I can't see that the 2 guys being in the same beat is going to help in the slightest. If they are both going to cum at the same time they are both going to have to make themselves horny and that's unlikely to be working to exactly the same rhythm as each other.

Try and enjoy the sex without worrying about this and at the end of the day if the 2 guys shoot together then great but don't be surprised if it doesn't work out in exactly the way you would like! Not every day can be like a porn movie or an Olympic sport!

One thing that can really help is for guys to learn how to manage their orgasms more. This can only be achieved with practice and by getting almost to the point of orgasm and learning how to hold it. It takes quite a bit of practice but its the way that we do most of the multiple cum shots you see in many of my FreshSX movies. Some of the guys are really good at this and they hold their orgasm until the other man is ready, and then they both cum. All that being said, it does take quite some practice to get it all right. So, just relax and enjoy yourself.!

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