This Week - Shaving, Not Cumming again and Great rimming

Jamie the old smoothie writes: My boyfriend likes me to keep his crotch hair short. In fact, he likes it removed. The problem is that he gets a horrible, itchy rash a few hours after the hair is removed. Sometimes we've had problems with ingrowing hairs as well. We've tried shaving, hair removal creams, and waxing (once and not for very long). What is the easiest way to keep his hair non-existent while avoiding all these problems? Is it something we're doing wrong?

James says: Well you know it isn't wise to be removing all the hair around his dick if it is creating problems. Also most guys don't really think it looks particularly nice when someone is totally bald around his crotch! I know some do, but it's a bit of minority.

The area around the balls and dick is extremely delicate and needs to be treated with care. If his skin is reacting badly to this then it is an indication that it is not a good idea to continue.

By far the best way is to trim. Buy a good trimmer and set it to number 1 or 2 and then trim away most of the excess hair but leave a little so that the skin is not being damaged. Afterwards use a non perfumed moisturising cream as well to rehydrate and protect. You need to treat him carefully ... it's an important area of his body!

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Jon comes up with this: Whenever I am having sex with partner it takes me like 20 years to cum. I have been with him a lot but I have never cum once. Is there a reason for that? By the way I am 18.

James replies: Hi Jon, this is called retarded ejaculation and happens to quite a few guys. It is as you say where you can't cum when having sex however usually you would be able to cum when wanking alone.

Research has found that it is often caused by fear and it has also been found to occur in people who have had very strict upbringings. It is normally caused by such psychological situations, but there are also a few biological reasons as well. Certain medications can cause such problems so if you are on any medication from your doctor ask him about this. Alcohol and other drugs can also create difficulties in ejaculating as well.

If you can eliminate the biological factors then start to look at the psychological factors as well. Do you cum easily when you are on your own? Is it only hard for you to cum when you are with your partner? Are you totally relaxed and happy with your partner and do you feel any pressure to cum when you are with him? If you are feeling pressure to cum or are not totally relaxed then it is hard and this will create problems. You can only really cum when you are totally relaxed and actually want to cum.

Maybe you could also discuss this with your partner as well as that often helps as well. Making sex more relaxed may also help. Do you laugh and joke when you have sex? Do you stop for periods and talk about sex and also other things? By not putting so much importance on sex you will find you will enjoy it more and also will probably find you will be able to cum more easily. Good luck and try not to worry about this as that would make it even worse.

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Jules has it licked: When you go down on a guy for rimming, how do you treat his hole? I mean do you munch on it, or just taste it with your tongue? I see porn stars like you pushing your faces into the ass of the partner and I wonder if you are pressing your lips against his crack and his asshole, or what? I am wanting to do this to a guy I know, and I want to do it so he will want it again. I just can't see exactly what's going on in those movies!

James answers: Hi Jules, well rimming can take many different forms and there are loads of ways of doing it and to be honest there is no right or wrong way either!

Rimming is mostly about using your tongue. Normally when we are shooting a porn movie we start by licking around the ass slowly working in closer on the asshole. Then we would start pushing the tongue deeper into the asshole and when the bottom is enjoying this he will react for more.

Then you can place both hands on his cheeks and really open his ass wide and go right in with your face so that you can really get your tongue in his asshole.

Obviously when we are on set the guys are squeeky clean inside and they shower and douche before, and often actually during filming. If your partner is not like this then educate him a little on anal hygiene so that rimming is an enjoyable experience for both of you!

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