This Week - Longer dicks, Yellow cum and Best friend love

gayguy wonders: Can you recommend anything to get my dick longer, without using any Viagra or anything like that?

James says: Hi there, well unfortunately at the end of the day we do pretty much have to put up with what we are given!

Yes, you can use a pump which we have talked about on Ask James before, and that can temporarily make your dick bigger but it also has risks attached. If you use it too much it can damage the veins of your dick with very serious consequences.

Viagra is only designed to make you stay harder for longer and so that would not necessarily make it larger, although as it pumps more blood through your dick it should appear to be a bit larger. This is of course only temporary as well, and some people believe that the more you use Viagra the less effective it becomes. There are loads of pills and tablets on the market that claim to make your dick longer and bigger but there is actually very little evidence to prove that any of these work and rather more importantly even less research into their side effects.

You may also decide to try using a cockring. These keep more blood in your dick and can make you harder for longer and also enlarge the size of your dick. However they also have risks and have to be used carefully. You must not keep them on for too long or use them every day. Check the past Ask James questions for more on cockrings.

There is the more serious choice of surgery which can make your dick either thicker or longer depending on the technique used. This is not something to be taken lightly and has considerable risks and should only be considered if you are really unhappy with your life at the moment. Surgery decreases the angle to which your dick can erect to, and can in some cases actually make erection more difficult. If you can be happy with the current length of your dick then you should not even be considering this option!

And finally, you could try the best approach where you just accept what you have got and maybe trim your pubic hair or lose some weight, as both these things make it look bigger. Learn to concentrate less on the size of your dick and more about what you do with it, so that you and your partner enjoy yourself more and worry less.

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Henry comes up with this: Hello James. Is it normal to have the color of cum like yellow or green-yellow? I'm a little concerned about it cus I have it.

James replies: The colour of cum normally ranges from a creamy white colour through to greeny-yellow. The colour does vary according to the individual and also alters according to when you last came and what you have been eating and drinking.

In general your cum may be more yellow if it is thicker, and more white if more fluid. The thinkness and the amount of cum will also vary between people. There is no norm at all. Quantity like colour also depends on when you last came, and how sexually excited you were prior to the ejaculation - if you went from unexcited to ejaculation in just a couple of minutes you will produce less cum which is normally thicker and darker than if you were sexually aroused for a long time before ejaculating.

Although a lot of people have whiter shades of cum, some do have much darker colours which can appear to be yellow. If you are concerned then of course the best thing is to visit an STD clinic and speak to one of the doctors there.

They will ask you all the questions they need to and may wish to take some tests just to be sure that all is OK.

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Andy asks this friendly question: James, I am a 19 year old med student in London. I have known my best friend for almost 6 years, and am still madly in love with him as I was when I first saw him in high school. However, he has always stated that he is straight and I respected that by maintaining a platonic relationship with him, albeit an emotional one. Spending time with him made me happier and we became close friends. He is now studying a course far from London, but we plan to meet up in the summer. Recently in conversations, I have noticed that he appears to be going through cycles of depression (often with alcohol), and I can't understand why. He seems happy that I am dating new guys and girls but always states that he is not looking for a relationship at the moment. Meanwhile every time we are apart my feelings for him intensify, and I am often overwhelmed by them. I know that I cannot go on like this, as I can no longer suppress my feelings very well (even through meditation) and this problem is being reflected in my poor exam results. Should I confront him with my feelings? Or should I slowly end my friendship for both our sakes? Sadly I feel that he will take neither of these things well. Can you please give me some advice on this?

James answers: Hi Andy, you seem to have got yourself into a difficult position and you are right in the fact that it does need to be brought under control.

Did you ever tell him your feelings towards him? If you did how did he react? Maybe you are reaching a point where it has got too much and you really do need to start telling him your feelings?

Yes there is a danger that he may react badly to this but you say he is a good friend so you should be able to talk about this and remain on good terms. It is also important for you to be able to lead a normal life without him. He is affecting your whole life far too much at the moment, especially if he isn't interested in having a relationship with you, and you do need to find out a way of getting on with your own life and thinking about him less.

Have you tried going out with someone else and seeing if that helped? It is common when people split up for them to immediately go and find someone else, as this takes their minds of their ex-partner and it allows them to move on with their lives more easily.

You definately can't go on like this. You need to talk to your friend. If he has the same feelings for you as you have for him, then great. If not, you need to find someone else and try and become less dependent on your friend, and less involved in his problems and his life. Maybe a short time apart not seeing him at all would be something to seriously consider.

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